Infidelity, The Real Price To Pay

In our complex world of marriage, we hear a lot about infidelity. In my practice of mostly couples, the presenting problem most often is betrayal of one spouse. It is a heartbreaking problem from both sides. The hurt partner and the affair partner. This article that appeared in the December 12th, New York Times, discusses this topic from both points of view. It is worth reading and sharing. Hopefully, it might give someone pause to think before making that decision.


A Roomful of Yearning and Regret
Modern Love
The New York Times
By WENDY PLUMP
December 12, 2010

http://tinyurl.com/2w5usll

. . . picturing yourself in the therapist’s office with your betrayed husband after you’ve been found out (and you will be found out). You will hear yourself saying you cheated because your needs weren’t being met. The spark was gone. You were bored in your marriage. Your lover understands you better. One or another version of this excuse will cross your lips like some dark, knee-jerk Hallmark-card sentiment.

I’m not saying these feelings aren’t legitimate, just that they don’t legitimize what you’re doing. . . .


Beverly Zagofsky, MS, LPC